Here is the truth, body positivity comes in waves. Some days we feel full of confidence and pride about our bodies, and other days, we find ourselves completely despondent to the wonderful vessel that carries around our heart and soul.
This is common, normal even, to feel this way. Some days I look in the mirror and sob. I cry heavy, full tears because my body is not like the girls on my Facebook feed or like the models on the runway. But, some days I strut around, realizing how wonderful my body is.
Here are some tips for overcoming body-love lows and also for navigating the peaks and valleys of loving yourself.
- Remember all you have accomplished.
It is very easy to get down when your body isn’t where you want it to be, but remember how far you’ve come and all that your body can do! Today I tried on swimsuits (it sucked) but I didn’t leave the fitting room in tears because yesterday I ran 8 miles. EIGHT MILES! I made great time and was so proud of myself when I finished. A lot of size two models who look great in bathing suits can’t do that. Be proud of you and all that your body has accomplished.
2. Stop comparing yourselves to others.
Chances are, that if you are a human being, then you have looked at someone else and thought, “Wow, they are prettier, and thinner, and better then me.” You’ve got to stop that. You don’t know that person. You don’t know their story or how they got to where they are. Maybe they work hard for their banging bod and great hair, or maybe they were blessed genetically, regardless, you are not them, and never will be, so let it go. You are a rockstar and there are tons of people who see you on the street and wish they looked like you. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so look at yourself and love it!
3. Accept the bad moments and keep moving.
So you saw a photo of yourself that made you feel bad or an off hand-comment by a friend has you feeling bad about yourself, go ahead, feel sad–for a minute–and then let it go. Don’t let a bad body thought ruin your day, night, or even your workout. Maybe a girl at the gym has the body you always wanted, instead of letting it ruin your workout, try harder, push harder, and please remember that you are a badass.
I hope this helps you navigate the mine field of body positivity.